A tough but insanely rewarding decade. I made plenty of mistakes in my 20’s. Looking back, there are so many things I wish I had known going in. It’s amazing to think about how much life has changed from my 20s to my early 30s. Below are the 5 things i wish I knew in my twenties.
1. Learn to Spend Time With Yourself
I was always really bad at doing things on my own. I was never really the go-out-to-lunch-alone type simply because I’d rather share that experience with someone. But after spending 4-5 years living on my own, It taught me to learn to love days and nights to myself. Morning walks/jogs, cooking, reading a book, and sole possession of the remote control. I fell in love with taking myself out on dates, especially art museums.
2. Relationships are not meant to be difficult
This goes for all kinds of relationships. If you have one of those really difficult friends you’re always at odds with, it’s time to let go of that friendship. saves you from a ton of headaches.
As soon as I entered my 20’s, I was dying to experience a head over heels romantic type of relationship but to my disappointment, It never happened.The first relationship was full of drama. My then partner would put his own needs before mine, gaslight me, and take very little interest in my life. What a waste of my time.We broke up and got back together too many times to count. Looking back, I can’t believe I gave that guy more than five minutes. If you have to try really hard to get along or make things work before life gets really real, it’s time to call it quits.
3. It’s Never Going To Be Perfect
I spent so much time wishing I had something that I thought was missing, but life is never perfect. Everyone’s lives look so ideal on Instagram, but trust me when I tell you that we all have our sh*t. Learn to be happy with what you have and with where you are. And remember that all the things you want might bring lots of happiness, but they will not complete you.
4. Trust Your Gut
Gut instincts in relationships can be the most important thing. I learned the hard way.Always trust your gut.That strange feeling you can’t quite put your finger on. A churning in your stomach.Your hairs going up on the back of your neck. A voice in your head. This is your intuition telling you something you should heed. Gut feelings in relationships are a powerful alarm bell and are key.
When you are dating, for example. Particularly if you’re dating too soon, dating when lonely or for the wrong reasons. Something that can stop you from listening to your gut is when you project onto others. Have a fantasy in your head of what you hope and believe they can be.
5. Take care of yourself.
Okay, so I did most of this but it’s such an important reminder that I’m going to say it anyway. You’re young and healthy, right? Great. Don’t skip your pap smear check with the OBGYN, see your dentist twice a year, and don’t forget your annual physical. Splurging on your favourite treat is fine, but follow a mostly healthy diet and don’t skip meals but do skip all those fizzy drinks and unhealthy sugars.
You will thank yourself later.
what’s something you did in your 20s that you’re glad you did?
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